WooHoo! Christmas!

ORIGINALLY POSTED JULY 9, 2016; BY ren
EDITED FOR CHRISTMAS DECEMBER 2016; BY ren

north pole
photo by ren    –    a winter-walk discovery

I would like to clear the air,
so there are no misunderstandings.

It has been my experience,
that many some people tend to become…
hmm….. protective of ”their” holidays,
with a touch of tunnel vision.

That is okay.
It is their choice 
and this is mine.

“traditional holidays
do not excite me
and
I rarely
celebrate them”

Do understand,
I did not wake up one morning
and decide to ‘not celebrate’.

This choice developed
over the course of my life.

bird view
photo by ren    –    another point of view

Why do you not always celebrate traditional holidays, ren?

(thanx for asking :-))

I was raised (1960’s)
with the understanding
that Christmas occurred
at the wrong time of the year.

I know,
that sounds improper,
just hear me out.
Thank you.

In Michigan,
at Christmas time,
my parents had the expense
of heating bills
and the ‘taxes’ would soon be due.

My parents were not going to go into debt,
celebrating Christmas,
when other life priorities reigned.

They witnessed many of their friends
and other family members
struggle and become miserable
throughout the holidays and ‘beyond’.

They wanted something better
for their family.

Don’t get me wrongly here. 

We did have Christmas in my early years
and it was wonderfully  enchanting.

My parents,
especially dad,
had such splendid imaginations,
creating hordes of magical moments
to cherish forever.

At the time,
I had no idea
I was ‘being deprived’
of a full holiday celebration.

My parents compensated for our ‘lack’,
by creating our own family holidays.

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They called our holiday:

Happy This Day!

and it was celebrated
whenever our heart
(and pocket book)
desired.

We would have

  • surprise parties
  • planned parties
  • gifts
  • homemade cards, gifts
  • cakes
  • special treats
  • perhaps just a hug of appreciation
  • favorite meals
  • all kinds of life celebrations throughout the whole year
  •  All year long!

My friends were envious!! 
Crazy, huh? 

This went beyond fabulous
and it propelled and excelled,
the creative juices of our hearts.

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photo by ren

As I grew older,
I observed
as the commercialism grew
and grew
and engulfed the holidays.

That took a lot of joy out the season for me.
Shoppers became grumpy and rude.
Traffic was a true mirror of the tension.

Friends were stressing because
they HAD to buy ALL “these” people a gift.
No idea what to buy,
resulted in ‘grabbing and buying anything’.

They would go into debt
‘trying to please all’
and become sickened by it.’
Literally!!

Tis the season to be jolly’? 
That is not Jolly!

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Over the years,
my Christmas ‘beliefs’
bled over into other holidays.

Yes, birthdays too.
I would allow my own birthday to slide by,
undetected by many.

I find that people are more accepting
of my beliefs today, than of years ago.

So, tell me,
how does my non-traditional ways
make you feel?
Do you know others
who don’t celebrate traditional holidays?

grins
photo by ren    –      Thank you for reading…

ren

 

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2 comments

  1. Thanks for the post. I have mixed feelings for the holidays. I think there can be a lot of magic in them, and sounds like your family found and created that magic in the right way. 🙂 On the down side, modern day feelings of obligation, and the incessant music in stores, starting *before* Thanksgiving these days, and all the ads on TV, I get sick of it as much as the next person.

    I do like to celebrate my birthday, but it’s smack dab between Christmas and New Year’s Eve. Let me tell you, no one wants to party, everyone is broke, and God forbid a sweet such as a cake is tolerated. At work everyone is treated to home baked cupcakes, cake, cookies, they have Happy Birthday sung to them, on or around their birthday. In fifteen years at work, that only happened once. Because I asked… please! It’s hard for me to be ‘grown up’ about this, and I am not sure why, and I am still conflicted by and embarrassed by that. My mother did a lot to make me feel very special because of the timing. It’s not a childhood thing. I think it was an ‘I feel invisible’ thing. These days I celebrate myself by going riding all day if weather permits, or by going to Santa Fe by myself and looking in the sculpture shops, weaving in and out of stores where everything is on sale, especially silver and opals. ;-0

    I totally get that these days, not everyone is a Christian. Not all of us want to celebrate Christmas. It’s understood that it came at a time of year convenient for the church, etc and so on. I love that you had great magic with your family, and that you made great magic all year! I promise will try and get over the ‘birthday slight’ as I age! lol ❤ I also give gifts of donations to local charities for friends and family. I give to the charity I think the person would appreciate such as their local food bank, animal shelter, or Habitat for Humanity, etc. Gifts like that are worth it because it's a win win.

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    • You are very welcome and thank you for this interaction.

      First, I feel I need to clear the “air”. I would like to say to everyone; I am not anti-holiday. I am not against holiday celebration. They are wonderful and full of love and warmth. They bring people together who may never have been brought together by any other means. They strengthen peoples heartfelt beliefs. Celebrations are powerful!
      thanx, ren and Branching Out

      Your ‘mixed feelings’, shall we call them magical vs. commercial (is that duality?), are where I made my choices from. My heart quivered with the ‘mixed feelings’ (tug o war is more like it) and so I made adjustments along the way, bringing my heart back to calmness.

      As for birthdays. I too have told others NOT to celebrate my birthday. THAT is what I prefer, thank you. Lo and behold, my friends would have a small party for me. Cake, gifts, fun times…. because THEY wanted to! Period. I love it! I have known people to create a new birthDateday – for similar reasons as you. Everyone LOVED and accepted the new date.

      How blessed you are to ride in nature, all day. Brings back memories, thanx 🙂

      Silver and Opals! YES! My long standing faves. Never been much for gold and diamonds. Crazy, huh?

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