Originally posted July 20, 2016
Updated fall/winter 2016/2017
THIS IS AN OLD POST.
FOR THE UPDATED VERSION,
PLEASE REFER TO
: 2012 wave #15
: 2012 wave #16
It was around 2007, I made a conscious choice to reduce the stress and drama in my world. I spent the prior five years in a highly stressful & dramatic family situation. It was not just the past five years I had turmoil. The majority of my life contained stress and drama.
I was maxed out! Done with the dumb stuff. My world had no room for drama and stress. I would find a way to evict them both!
One major-minor change I made; ‘choose my battles’. I selectively decided which situations were really not very important and could be allowed to slide by.
- Did it really matter that someone put the milk on the second shelf instead of the bottom one?
- Long checkout lines in the stores made me furious. Instead of getting angry, [cuz it actually made the lines move slower] I would make small talk with those near me. Make funny faces at a child in line or play peek-a-boo. People watch. Read a magazine, isn’t that why they put them at checkout?
I took a different approach to how I viewed the things that stressed me out. Was it really worth the effort to get upset? Did getting upset, solve anything?
I picked my battles.
I started paying attention to what my triggers were. What stressed me. I made a mental list of all these things.
A huge factor which helped to reduce my stress, was when I quit watching television in 2010. Not only did it ‘lighten my load’, it generated a lot of free ME time. YAY!
One of my most challenging changes, was to allow everyone to have their own drama and stress. [sounds crazy, huh?] I use to get emotionally involved in other peoples issues. I felt it and lived it with them. Even when I was not there.
I was living their drama within me. It would churn and roil around inside me. My heart ached for them to find resolve. And I could do nothing to help them. It was their battle. I had my own wars. I could do nothing. I had my own issues. This was their battle. Leave it alone. I had my own to deal with. Let it go. Pick your battles.
In time, there was a reduction of stress and drama in my world. I noticed my heart calming down. I was relaxing more. My breathing was less strained. I no longer felt like I had to, run, hurry, quickly. Go here, do that, get this done, multitask this and that and whoa! I hate that feeling of being rushed. My heart does not like it. My heart? Look at my heart. It is calmer. I like that feeling. 🙂 My heart knows.
All I have to do, is ‘listen to my heart’!
Pay attention to how my heart feels.
Be mindful of my heart.
When it starts to ‘not feel well’, then I know something is not right.
Stop and figure it out.
I did not need ‘mental lists’.
I did not need to ‘know my triggers’.
All I needed to do, was listen to how my heart was feeling.
Keep track of ONE thing; my heart.